There are many schools of thought on marriage. Some say that you should become half of yourself and take the other half from your spouse and blend into one. This might work for some but for others, and I think I’m in this camp, this will not. I discovered a different school of thought today. Be YourselfYou should allow your spouse to be herself (and vice versa). You should be authentic. That’s the only way you’re going to be happy. I agree with this type of thinking. You want to be yourself because that’s what makes you happy. Where did…
Self Improvement
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Good negotiating skills is a valuable tool to have. It comes to use whether you’re negotiating for a new car, a new job, pay raise, or anything else that you want to get a good price for. The bottom line, it will come of use sooner or later. What is the best technique? Walk away. I agree. I bought a car for my wife using this technique. The salesperson did not want to go down in price. He went down a little but not enough for me. I told him my last price. He said no. I was walking away.…
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Do you want to be successful? Or maybe you already are, in that case, do you follow a pattern? I have to say that I have been successful in most of the things that I have tried to achieve. But I don’t necessarily have a process. After reading the article, more below, I think that I might have a process: I think of an idea — a goal — and then I stay determined and try to achieve it, over time I look back and see if it was successful. But I don’t really have a structure and the process…
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This is a great advice from lifehack.org blog: Take The Sword In. You probably haven’t re-read your copy of 7 Habits of Highly Effective People lately, but there’s a great part in Habit 5 (Seek first to understand, then to be understood) that talks about confrontations. I use that advice often, and almost always to the effect that Dr. Covey promises. Good! You See it Differently When confronted by a difference of opinion, especially when the person who disagrees with you sounds almost hostile about their opinion, or dismissive, what’s expected is a confrontation. The person arguing with you lunges…
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I am starting a learning log. In this log, I will enter my thoughts on what I’m learning, what I want to learn: anything that is learning related. The bottom line is that I want to become a lifelong learner. I want to learn something new everyday. I want to continue on that path until I die. Why? Because that’s what I like to do. I like to learn new things, read new books. But how did I come about doing this? I am currently reading “The Lifelong Learner” book. In that book, the author suggests creating a learning log…
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We all want to be happy, right? What makes you happy? Do you know? I personally can’t tell you right away. Well, if I don’t know what makes me happy, how can I be happy? 🙂 Actually, I’m usually happy. Usually. If I could figure out how to be happy all the time… that would be great. That’s why I think the tips below are good for me. They also help me identify some of the things that make me happy. Here are 9 tips that can help you lead to happiness: Understand what it is that will make you…
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I want to be an expert (in everything I engage in :-)). I’m sure you do too. Do you like to do things that are not fun for you to do? (Re-read that.) If so, you’ll become an expert one day. (I’m sure you are aware of this, and you’re doing this consciously.) Most of the people like to do things that they’re already good at. If you’d like to become an expert, however, it is essential for you to practice the things that are a pain for you; it is essential that you suck for a while; and on…
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I totally agree with this post, The Importance of Having Friends Who Disagree. I think it is great to have friends who disagree with you, and still be friends. That’s a luxury that I’d love to have. A friend like that will not let you get complacent, keep you motivated (because you want to find out more about the subject). It’s just great. Unfortunately, I think it’s a human nature not to disagree, and a lot of people have ego problems and don’t want to feel or look dumb. I am not one of them. If I disagree on something,…
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I want to improve myself all the time. I want to learn all the time. Do you? I think so (otherwise you wouldn’t be reading my blog). If we all follow these tips, below, the world will be a better place. That’s for sure. 🙂 A nice wish, I think. I’m going to keep an eye on these as I go through life. I think these are excellent (some thought provoking) tips. If you want your dreams to come true, don’t oversleep. The smallest good deed is better than the grandest intention. Of all the things you wear, your expression…
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Am I creative? I don’t think so. I’m full of ideas, and I constantly want to improve something, but I’m not sure that’s creativity. In any case, I’d like to be a creative person. I’d like to more creative. In this article by gapingvoid, How To Be Creative, the author shows 26 tips on how to be more creative. It’s long — 34 pages — but it reads quickly, plus, a shorter version is available. It’s a great article, I recommend it. Tip 11 (from the article): “Don’t try to stand out from the crowd; avoid crowds altogether.” ReferenceHow To…