The Lifelong Learner :: Do what you can, with what you have, where you are -Roosevelt ::

Being humble is hard. Especially in pressure situations. But I think it is one of the most important characteristics of a person.

What does it mean to be humble? The article I found on lifehack.org, Humility in the Workplace, written by Rosa Say, has a great definition of what it means. (It’s so good that I re-posted the whole content.)

‘Humility’ is a widely understood word. It’s not one of those words people will pause to look up the meaning for. Generally, people love the thought of humility. It’s one of those ‘good’ values we strive for; one we admire. Yes, most people feel they know what it means to be humble.

Demonstrating it however, is a whole other matter.

For instance, a person distracted by their Blackberry or cell phone, unable to focus on the conversation you are having with them face to face, is so filled with self-importance, they cannot possibly claim to be humble. Humility is the lack of self-importance, is it not?

The person who impatiently shakes their head as you explain a new idea you are presenting to them, finally breaking in to say, “We’ve tried that here before, and it just doesn’t work,” cannot claim to be humble. Humility is being open-minded, and realizing that no matter how long you’ve been around, you couldn’t possibly have experienced everything there is to experience, right?

Then there’s the person who just got a promotion, and the first purchase order they write is for new business cards, despite the fact that the have a box left of the old ones with the same mailing address, email address, and phone numbers. Never mind that they mostly attach v-cards electronically these days, and that’s why the old box lasted so long.

In new product development, there’s a discussion going on about complaints customers have with existing products, and someone says, “Well, they wouldn’t have that problem if they followed the instructions in the first place.” That can’t possibly be humility, when we stop listening to what our customers are asking for, and assume they just don’t ‘get it,’ right?

If some of our common behaviors in workplaces are an indication, we don’t understand humility very much at all.

Those who are humble, feel the rest of us are pretty interesting. Those with humility have a genuine desire to discover what other people can offer. They are intrigued by how others think, and how others feel differently from them.

We can be confident, and we can be self-assured; humility does not call for us to be meek, or consider ourselves lower in stature. We do not require less of ourselves, and we take our role and our responsibilities seriously. However what humility does, is create a sort of receptacle of acceptance in us, so we are open to being filled with the knowledge and opinions of others. Humility is a kind of hunger for more abundance. The greater our humility, the greater our fascination with the world around us, and the more we learn.

To have inner drive, to want to be successful is a good thing. I do believe that part of humility is believing in those possibilities which presently may be larger than life for you. However humility also speaks to the demeanor and attitude we must have as we seek our success, so that our inner drive and desires are in balance with our composure, and our conduct with those who interact with us. After all, they could factor into being a big part of the success we eventually will enjoy.

One of the best definitions I have ever heard for humility came from one of my employees when I was still in corporate management. Short and sweet, it’s one I have never forgotten. He was talking about a new supervisor we’d recently hired into the department, explaining how she listened to everyone on staff in such a great way. Like they mattered. Like everything they did and said mattered. He had said she seemed very humble to him because as she demonstrated it, “Humility is an act of courtesy.”

I like that.

We were not put on this earth alone. Frankly, others have to live with us, and our own practice of open-minded, fill-me-up humility can make it a much more interesting and pleasant experience for all of us.

ReferenceHumility in the Workplace, lifehack.org blog post

How do you grow as a person?

One of the ways is doing new things. We get new ideas (by reading, observing, listening, etc.). We then try to implement them in our own lives. I do this fairly often. For instance, I read that writing your goals everyday (or several times a week) works. I have implemented that and before I go to bed, I try to write (re-write) the list of goals, along with the completion date. This has really helped me focus on the things that I want to do.

A different way of growing is attacking your fears. (This is a more painful way, I must admit.) I have many fears. Even though I try to work on them at a slow pace, I do work on them. However, Scott Young, in his blog entry, A Fear a Day, is trying to work on a single fear every day. That’s very pushy, but I think it might work. I think a fear a week or so might work as well.

The bottom line, continuously working on your fears is a good way to grow yourself. Try it. It’s a lifelong strategy to improve yourself.

ReferenceA Fear a Day, Scott H Young

RelatedScott H Young blog — excellent self-development blog